Question:

Why am I 19 and chronically single?
Guys have liked me, but not enough to really pursue it or go out with me. Usually things just don't work out (want to be just friends, stop liking me, maybe I don't like them, etc.) I don't think I'm a dog, but I am insecure about my looks. I attract the wrong types of guys sometimes. I'm rather "innocent" (no drinking, no drugs, haven't had sex yet) and that seems to lure in the wrong crowd from time to time. Is 19 really weird to never have had a boyfriend?

Answers:

A-Best: There are boyfriends and there are quality boyfriends. It's relatively easy to get a run-of-the-mill boyfriend: all you need to be is wild, drink or use drugs with abandon, be free with sex, etc. But do you really want to incur such a cost? Anyway, 19 is not too old to never have had a boyfriend. Which leads to a suggestion. What efforts have you made to position yourself to meet a nice guy? Get some advice from girls with similar values to yours. They are likely to be kind and supportive. And stay away from the wrong crowd. Occasionally you draw the wrong type of attention. This is how the subpar boyfriend mentality goes: He sees you as a virginal princess; and wants to be the first to score with you. Yup. He's into short-term sex, rather than a serious relationship. I don't think that's what you want. 'Kay?  

A: i'm here if you want , can we meet xD  

A: Depends.. there's not enough info. Do they know you are a virgin from the start? I don't see why? Are you refusing to sleep with them, are you waiting until marriage?? That is awkward. It is pretty weird. edit: why am I getting thumbs down for being the only person who is actually being honest? If you want lies then 90% of the people here are in the "I'll just try to make her feel less bad about herself" brigade. This is the internet where people are allowed to be honest and offend you, cos you asked.  

A: boo...grow up...it's not weird  

A: You don't do drugs, sex, or drinking and that attracts the wrong crowd? How in God's name does that attract a wrong crowd? Look, I was 19 before I lost my V Card and had my first serious boyfriend. Some people take longer than others to "bloom". No big deal. Live your life and don't sweat it. When the time is right, you'll no longer be "chronically single".  

A: You are just blooming a little later than most...and that is a good thing. You are just fine that way you are and I can guarantee there are guys out there who will appreciate you for who you are. Just live your life, don't look for potential mates behind every corner, and it will come to you. Promise. And BTW...being 70 and single is chronically single...not 19.  

A: Nope, in fact you're more or less in the same boat as me!! :D it happens and it happens to A LOT of people. Next time you meet a boy you like, just start flirting. You'll meet that right person eventually, just be open to dating and getting to know them better.  

A: It's normal, but I'll point some factors that you need to put it in your mind if you want to attract many guys, 1) Your hair style is no.1 trigger 2) Clothes 3) Perfumes 4) "Littile" make up I think those at least could do it, otherwise take care of your body  

A: It's definitely not weird. You're thinking way too much about it. Enjoy being single, that's how you meet new people and that person might be your first bf or possibly more. Once you find someone that you know you're going to spend the rest of your life with, that will be the end of being single so enjoy the fun and flirt it up!  

A: nope. everybody has their own spurt of relationships at a certain point in their life. its all about the right timing with the person youre meant to be with.  

A: The in- experienced are always attractive to the Wolves. If a Girl is confident she can choose what she wants and many guys would like to be chosen.If you have nothing to bring to the party you will not be first choice and can attract some right wrong ones who hope to introduce you to "their Idea of a Good life which includes one or more things on your "do not" do list. You can have a "not ready to do" and a "not interested in trying" list, if you are a terrific person, have a great sense of humour.a good friend, a charming companion. are even dumb "arm ornamental" { Girl who the guy is seen with because she boost his ego by looking great but please girl "no conversation" just pout, smile ,enjoy his jokes but do never start a conversation with "I think" he does not need that> He is the Man. Look for real normal boys through a Drama Group, Dance Group, Walking club, Literary or Film club or anything you are actually interested in then you have something of Mutual interest. This prevents the "Lets see if she will say Yes " which is the only basis for talking to a girl by a certain large percentage of guys if they are truthful. You will develop your own style and get comfortable in Guys company as soon as you realize they are usually just as afraid as you are or up to recently they were. They just realized in trying they had nothing to loose as rejection and making a fool of themselves were not the end of the world they appeared when feeling lonely and hurt rather valuable learning experiences that grow you as a person. Always think about the other person and get to know them,see them as real people and not for how they make you feel but how you are feeling about them . Give out only what you are comfortable with but while reserving your body let your mind free or nobody gets a fair chance to be seen without you imposing a set of conditions based on your past and your fears  

A: You seem to be insecure. Ever hear, "you must learn to love yourself before you can love another?" Well its true, Take this time off of a relationship to build your friendships, education, and really get to know yourself :) You're only 19. It'll all be okay :)  

A: i think that you are overly sensitive about not having had a boyfriend.